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[Snoogans4Jay]

Mar 18, 2009 21:47:54 GMT -5 Joan D said:

Mar 17, 2009 16:47:59 GMT -5 Snoogans4Jay said:

Well in this little corner of my spinning pile, it seems the gentleman to whom I have been "engaged" since January has decided my life needed a bit more excitement so he has informed me that he has 4 kids. One is a teen that he doesn't see and has no "claim" to. The kid was adopted by his grandparents. The other three my guy pays child support for but talks to/sees about once a month. Of course I am thinking what my responsibility will be if we marry.

I think I have decided we won't marry legally. While I AM committed to being there for Shandon and helping him through this life we have been given, I will not commit to these kids legally in any way shape or form whatsoever. I have never wanted children and that is why I do not have any. He understands this and has known it since day one of our relationship. Hard ass? Maybe. Honest? Damn straight. WHY must every little thing be so damn complex.

Wow - I'm thinking that I'm a little concerned that he hasn't mentioned having 4 children before, considering you are close enough to at least have considered marriage. Though, I suppose that if you have made clear your desires to not be involved with children, he may have been nervous about discussing it.

Still, 4 children, whether they live with him or not, are a big commitment. In my mind, they should be a big part of his life whether he is with their mother(s) or not. That means they will become part of your life if you stay with him. That doesn't mean you need to play "mom", but you will need to share his time with them and may be in family situations with them. It could be a very good experience if you approach it with an open mind & really love the guy.

Hope that things work out for you two.

Joan

Well Shandon and I discussed this ad infinitum yesterday pretty much all day and I have decided so far that I will not marry him legally. I just have worked too damn hard to have my income taken for kids that aren't mine or even to risk that. I love him and will support whatever part he wants or doesn't want to play in their lives/future, but not as a legal wife. I am wearing rings (we have exchanged rings unofficially, --- he IS a Minister ), and I will continue to wear them as long as we decide to stay together. At this point the ball is back in his court so to speak .

Further updates as events warrant

[johnnysgirl]

Mar 19, 2009 13:19:52 GMT -5 sydney said:

Mar 18, 2009 22:59:01 GMT -5 @johnnysgirl said:

Well, I guess I might go back on topic here...

I hate it when people at my callegue sees me as a wirdo or something.. I know of some who think I`m not good at makinf films but they don`t dare tell me because they think they are FUCKING better .. of course I trust myself and I said more thatn once that I^m going to kick their arses .. it might take time but I fucking will

(I`m studying to be a film maker btw )

Really? Could be interesting...Anyway, I know what you feel about your classmates or whoever they are. I do the same about mine. I can call them arseholes for many reasons. I'm not one of those crazy teenagers, you know, I'm maybe supposed to be. Idon't know what it is, to behave that way...Oh and I really may have a self-confidence... Hey johnnysgirl, kick their arses!Fingers crossed!

Of course I will... I don`t care what people say about me... I might not be a super genious but I`ll suceed goddamn it!!!

[johnnysgirl]

Oh... I`m back from my eastern holidays but still I have to deal with collague and a few hipocrites in my class...

I`ll explain.. in my class there are a few pople who dictate who`s talentes and who`s a freaking loser, actually noone is a loser in my class... just different talents but those hipocrites think that they are so talente that they are the next Coppola... I`ve tried to work in groups with them but for some reason they`ve avoided me like shit...

Ok.. end of rant ... but I`m truly pissed off still my problem is with them because they would call you genious on you face but then they`d call you untalented on your back...

[angie]

Today was my first day back at school. I'm already nostalgic. I literally spent three days in heaven (9.04, 10.04, 11.04), when all my friends, who I haven't seen since God knows when, came especially in my town for a surprise. All those people I love. We sat on the grass, had chocolate picnics, picked flowers, sang and wrote songs. And tomorrow one of them is coming again. To see me. I feel loved. And it's amazing.

Just thought I'd share a pleasant emotion.

[johnnysgirl]

Apr 13, 2009 13:39:39 GMT -5 angie said:

Today was my first day back at school. I'm already nostalgic. I literally spent three days in heaven (9.04, 10.04, 11.04), when all my friends, who I haven't seen since God knows when, came especially in my town for a surprise. All those people I love. We sat on the grass, had chocolate picnics, picked flowers, sang and wrote songs. And tomorrow one of them is coming again. To see me. I feel loved. And it's amazing.

Just thought I'd share a pleasant emotion.

I was back at collage too... I study to be a film maker...

[johnnysgirl]

I`m PISSED off... at who? the mail post!!! .. I have to get some mail and it doesn`t arrive.. every fucking day it`s the same.. it just doesn`t arrive!!!! what the hell take it so much??

[sydney]

Is it anything very important? I ordered and sent money to the UK, believe me it takes 2 weeks from here

Life...I'm travellingto London in 5 days... I'm pretty excited !

[johnnysgirl]

Apr 20, 2009 14:45:29 GMT -5 sydney said:

Is it anything very important? I ordered and sent money to the UK, believe me it takes 2 weeks from here

Life...I'm travellingto London in 5 days... I'm pretty excited !

it`s just Snoogs who sent me some stuff I cannot get here... some Peter Lorre collection...

[Snoogans4Jay]

Well they are supposed to arrive by April 30 And the other package of dvds I can't trace because it is international shipment...I have no tracking number with the USPS

[Kenny Rogers]

I think its been a million years since I last posted. I'm trying to sort myself out. I just wish I would finally be satisfied with an arrangement, lol. Its the end of the semester and I fear for my sanity. I have so much to do yet I feel like I'm going nuts trying to get it done and still trying to do simple things for myself (taking care of car problems, doing laundry, etc). I'm hoping I will be done with this degree by December. I'm hoping that I can get into doctoral school after I'm done at this one. I feel like I have a jar of bees in my head; there are lots of thoughts running through there right now.

[johnnysgirl]

Oh well.. the mail arrived but it`s stuck in the custome offices.. I have to pay for some shipping and it`s A LOT of money so I had to give up on some of the thing that were sent to me... because it`s a lot of money that I can`t pay and I didn`t know I`d have to pay to get those things out... yeah... I wish I didn`t have to do that but I feel forced to... so I decided to keep the pay for the books but not the dvds...

[Snoogans4Jay]

Apr 23, 2009 23:09:30 GMT -5 Kenny Rogers said:

I think its been a million years since I last posted. I'm trying to sort myself out. I just wish I would finally be satisfied with an arrangement, lol. Its the end of the semester and I fear for my sanity. I have so much to do yet I feel like I'm going nuts trying to get it done and still trying to do simple things for myself (taking care of car problems, doing laundry, etc). I'm hoping I will be done with this degree by December. I'm hoping that I can get into doctoral school after I'm done at this one. I feel like I have a jar of bees in my head; there are lots of thoughts running through there right now.

It is good to see you back Kenny and to know you haven't forgotten us What will your degree be in? Getting that stuff is NEVER easy and takes over your life, but in the end it is worth it....

[M!$H]

Hi guys! I did not fall off the earth! I have been checking in once and a while, if anyone has noticed. :] I have been dealing with some health issues and some serious school issues as well (I am editing/printing my college's lit magazine, I have my first article published in a magazine next month!, and I will have my first poem published in a serious literary magazine this summer!)

Hope everyone is doing well! I have not forgotten about the P&V either.

[johnnysgirl]

H Mish!!!! welcome back..

I hope you do good with your articles...

[Snoogans4Jay]

Apr 25, 2009 23:39:00 GMT -5 M!$H said:

Hi guys! I did not fall off the earth! I have been checking in once and a while, if anyone has noticed. :] I have been dealing with some health issues and some serious school issues as well (I am editing/printing my college's lit magazine, I have my first article published in a magazine next month!, and I will have my first poem published in a serious literary magazine this summer!)

Hope everyone is doing well! I have not forgotten about the P&V either.

Good to hear from you, I hope at least the health issues are clearing/cleared up